Caught In Between

Sometimes, as an asexual person, it feels like I am constantly stuck in between, in some sort of liminal space that doesn’t seem to have a destination on either side. I’m stuck between straight and queer, because although queer has felt right to me for as long as I’ve known of its existence, that idea … More Caught In Between

Everything Changes (except for the stuff that matters)

This is my submission for the December Carnival of Aces on the theme of change – somewhat late, but hey, I’m hosting it, so I’ve got the final word on what gets included anyway! Sometimes, when I first started identifying as asexual,  I asked myself how long it would last. Everything changes, right? Being ace … More Everything Changes (except for the stuff that matters)

What It Means To Be Ace: Building community on shared experience

Special thanks go to my partner J for inspiring this post, and putting into neat words what I’ve been thinking about for a while. I am not much of a tumblr user, but when I occasionally browse through the things the few people I follow have reblogged, I am struck by the conflict that seems … More What It Means To Be Ace: Building community on shared experience

Fixed and Fluid Sexual Identities (from an ace perspective)

One of the things that interests me about (a)sexual identity and sexual orientation is the models we use to talk about and conceptualise them. I’ve seen two main ways of doing this in the queer community, which have then been transferred over into the ace community as well. First, there’s the ‘born this way’ idea, … More Fixed and Fluid Sexual Identities (from an ace perspective)

My Feminist Wishlist

This month, The News With Nipples has been asking for submissions on ‘the future’ for the 55th edition of the Down Under Feminists Carnival. So I thought I’d write something on what I want to see in the future, for feminism. And life in general. Obviously, writing a complete list of things that could be … More My Feminist Wishlist

Boxes and Boxes: why bother with orientation at all?

One of the things that often comes up in conversations about sexuality is that people don’t see why sexual orientation and identity has to be that big a deal in people’s lives. It’s an idea that frustrates me a bit, because most of the time that sort of comment will come from someone who actually … More Boxes and Boxes: why bother with orientation at all?